Shakespeare once wrote "there is nothing neither good nor bad thinking makes it so." It is merely our perception which has been coloured by the conditioning of our upbringing, our schooling our previous life experiences which make us think that something is good or bad, right or wrong. It may be good or bad, but how do you know? Really, how do you know when yours is just a subjective opinion?
So what is it that compels us to hold on so tightly to our views? Is it a need to have something solid to hold on to - even a belief system, something that makes you feel right and justified in your life choices? If beliefs are based on thoughts, and thoughts on conditioning, and conditions change, then it's not so solid after all, it is merely an illusion of constancy.
There are so many cliches about impermanence - you can't step in the same river twice, there is nothing permanent except death and taxes etc. etc., yet we still struggle with it. Why?
Impermanence is neither a good nor a bad thing. Without it you could never grow. You would be stuck! Stuck feeling compelled to defend your views, your opinions, instead of being able to look at them, recognize that they may have been appropriate at a time under certain conditions. But maybe they are not appropriate now, or maybe they are. I am not saying any view is right or wrong just that any opinion we have as ordinary human beings is based on a very limited and conditioned perspective and therefore the possibility of it being absolute truth is relatively slim. So don't fight over it.
Lives have been torn apart over stubborn opinions.
Stop limiting your life by clinging on to your opinions. Who would you be without them - all of your opinions and perceptions of yourself and others? You would be free to change, and able to change because you wouldn't be holding yourself back! It's a little scary and a little painful to let go of the familiar. To shed the old skin of your conditioning often requires putting yourself between a rock and a hard place. When you find them recognize them as friends.